Sunday, November 29, 2009
LAST ASSIGNMENT: REFLECTION
Throughout this class I have learned that if you can stop prolonging actions that will ge you to where you want to be, you can already be there. Aonther key thing that I learned in this class was that I need to be able to overcome my fears of failing. I learned that sometimes it is okay to make mistakes because everyone might not get it the first time around, but it counts if you have learned from the mistake that was made.
I have seenmyself grow so much from this whole semester alone. Before starting this class, I was just a student in a university just thinking alone that I need to finish school. I had ideas of what I wanted to do after I was to graduate, but I still felt lost as to how I could map out every step of the way to where I wanted to be. Honestly, I would come to class sometimes feeling discouraged becasue of the fact that I never had a success story to give. I would just come to class and try to think of something that made me at least feel like I was productive with my life, but I couldn't really think of anything. I just knew what I enjoyed doing, but yet I was still lost as to what would be a great career field for me to actually pursue. When I was making my planning wall and flow chart, this really opened my eyes to how my life should be abled to be mapped out. It is like a map of my whole life. Without one, it would be like me going through life blind.
In a way, I feel that this course has made me more mature. It actually forced me to think about my future, whereas before I was just going through life as it came to me. I believe that it taught me to manage my everyday tasks better and it made me set goals and deadlines to meet these goals. After even watching some of the documentaries, I have also realized that whatever I have set in my mind that I would like to achieve, I can achieve it!. It is just the matter of me getting into action, staying positive, and knowing that I can get what I want. I feel as if I can always look back on this class and take all the fundamentals that I have learned, I can use this to create and set up a successful future for myself.
3 things I liked best about Leadership for Change:
-the discussions on the readings
-the documentaries watched
-the support groups & buddy system (Success Stories)
1 thing I liked least about Leadership fpr Change
-the speed dating activity w/ flow chart
One thing that I would improve for this course is that more time should be given to dicuss the videos watched after the free-write.
I am glad that I took this course because throughtout this semester it helped me find my way.
I really enjoyed the course and the people it was spent with that made it a wonderful experience!
Sunday, November 15, 2009
The Buddy System
The action that I was suppose to take for the week was to research more important information that would be good know about Occupation Therapy. I looked up........
-the top ten schools for OPT
-the reqirements of getting into them
-all of the possible locations I could work at
-I also looked into the courses of recieving a master's degree and a OPD (Doctrate in Occupational Therapy)
I feel very comfortable with the steps I am taking and cannot wait to get through my undergraduate courses to futher my career goals!
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Moving and Shaking
The next couple of steps that I took for this week was I picking my classes for next semester and I registered for them. I regisitered for a sociology class and I am very much excited to take it. Another step that I did was to study hard for my Biology exam that I am going to be taken on Monday.
Reflecting on Fear
One resistance that I experienced throught the steps of trying to achieve my goal was when I was making the decision of continuing to take chem 112. When I was a bio major it was required of me to take and pass it. When I switched to over to psychology I knew that it was no longer needed in order for me to pursue that degree. I wasn't doing as well as I wanted to in the chem 112 course so it was a major decision for me when I decided that I would drop. I knew that dropping was going ot hurt my gps but I was willing to take that risk only due to the fact that I know that in the future of me taking other courses in the future pertaining to psychology and going towards OP (Occupational Therapy) that I would do way better and I would be able to better my gpa later along down the line. I was going to be changing alot dealing like with the courses I would be be taking and the schooling I would do after undergraduate school. It was also that fear of me telling my pareents and all the others who knew that I was going to school planning on becoming a doctor. I would have to say that I was going through the stage fright fear instead of survival fear because I actually have strolled down the path of majoring in bio and taking some of the required courses instead of just straying away from it without trying. I gave it a shot but realized that it just wouldn't work out for me. With the encouragement of switching my major from people like my advisor and another advisor in the athletic apartment, I was able to make the big change about my career path. the underlying message was being able to do something wrong and right but still being able to go through it. I moved through my fear by having encouragement of others. If I was alone in it, I don't think that it would have been easy on me to go through the steps.
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Getting Into Action
After talking to my advisor, I see the road to my futre a little more clearer now. Going into pre-occupational therapy seems to be a choice that I like because it is still going to invlove me working with people and health. The steps from here are to continue with the courses that I need that are going to fulfill my degree in majoring in psychology and for me to prepare to go to pre-occupatinaol therapy school to earn a master's degree. Even though this is just one career path that I am on, I will still find a way to fo other things that I would like to do in life like still wanting to work with the youth like at youth foundations or even to still set up a foundation that would help support young children in other countries who needs it. I also feel accomplished this week because I have actually mapped out a vision board (got the idea from the documentary The Secret) for my life in which I wrote that I would do this on my pink card last week in class. It's not completely finished but it is mapped out. One major thing that I wanted to do was to apply for a job at Macy's for a seasonal shift over Christmas break but that didn't happen. Hopefully it will be able to get done this week though!
After this week I felt a lot better about my life. I mean at first lost, but now I feel as if I know where I am going.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Last Two Interviews
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Second Set of Interviews
Response from Dr. Keith:
The life after becoming a doctor is great for me only because this was my only true passion. Many people may only become doctors becasuse of the payroll, but I have always wanted to be a doctor. It was something I had planned on becoming from when I was a young child. There were many of times where I thought that I wanted to throw in the towel and give up because the work was challenging, but I had to remember that I was putting in the work for what I wanted in the end. I even remember a time when I broke down and cried to one of my friends about how I was stressed out and how I was going to give up on becoming a doctor. I was a mess and I really think that I could go through with everything. The advice that my friend gave to me that day helped me to move on and to continue. Once I finished with everything and finally became Dr. Keith, I felt complete. A lot of people complain about how much schooling it takes to become a doctor, but if that's what a person desires to be then they should do what they need to do to accomplish it! I am glad that I decided to stick with my dream that I made as a young child. Working as a doctor never bores me because I love what I do!
It was hard for me to reach some of the other contacts this week, but I will blog sooner or later if able to be reached.
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Interviews
One main question that was the focus of my interview for both of the doctors was "At which point on your pathway on becoming a doctor did you struggle with the most, and what helped you to overcome it??"
Response from Dr. Chris Warner:
Well since there were many times were I wanted to give up on becoming a doctor, I would have to say the part that I struggled with the most was in medical school. Getting into medical school was hard enough and the work that had to be done was even harder. It was many of times were I thought I wanted to give up on becoming a doctor, but then I had to realize that I was only a few steps away on becoming one. The work requires much focus and one must be determined if they want to become a doctor. Another thing that always helped me to stay on track and focus were people. I had certain friends that were always there to give me that extra push that I need to help me through medical school. They would encourage me to keep striving and to continue on with what I was doing. I also had my father who was a huge influence on my life that helped me through my hard times. With him being a heart surgeon, he knew what I was going through and knew the right words to say to me to help me continue on.
Response from Dr. Michael Appiegye
One point in my life when I thought that I wasn't going to be able to accomplish my goal of becoming an Ob/Gyn was when I was in undergrad. Being pre-med was challenging because college is full of fun and parties, but in the end college is really for one thing, and that is your future. It helps create your future. With that being said, along my journey of my start of becoming an OB/Gyn, my first couple of years in college were not the best years for me because I didn't have that in mind. The workload was heavy and I didn't think that I was going to even be able to see a bachelor's degree. What helped me to get back on track with what I was doing was a friend of my family who had went through the whole process of becoming a doctor. He told me that what I was going through at that time would only become worse. I thought that that was definitely not a way to lift my spirits and encourage me to reach my goals, but it definitely was a wake up call for me. If I had set my mind to become a doctor, I knew that hard was was going to be needed. The road ahead for me was still tough though but in the end you can say that it was a greater reward.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Assignment #4: Discovering Your Personality and Your Touchstone
Dream: To create a support foundation for the needy
Touchstone: love, completness, and equality
Role Model: Oprah Winfrey
Target: Have a worldwide support foundation
What I've gained from this process is that any goal is able to be reached. Although I am in school right now to get a degree, I also have other things in life that I would enjoy doing. I have realized that they are all reachable if I can just map out a way to achieve them.
This is one of my dreams since I was in high school. When I was in high school I always did a lot of volunteer work and it always made me feel better, like I was doing something good for a change. I would like to accomplish this goal one day along with one of my best firneds who also has this dream in mind. Helping other people has always been enjoyable to me. I guess that creating a foundation is only me wanting to give those who may be more less fortunate than others.
Exercise #2: What is My Personality Type?
Portrait of an INFJ - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging(Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling)
The Protector
As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system.
INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.
INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk.
INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.
But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.
Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.
INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.
In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.
The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.
Jungian functional preference ordering:
Dominant: Introverted IntuitionAuxilliary: Extraverted FeelingTertiary: Introverted ThinkingInferior: Extraverted Sensing
Friday, September 18, 2009
Assignment 3
I am gold. I am rich and full of majesty. I'm rich in elegance and in class. I am strong at times and I can be weak at times because I can be melted and I can be a solid. I shine bright to others to try to bring them joy when I can.
Exercise 5: The Private-Eye Game
Walking through this person room, I would say that they are unorganized but is always busy. It seems like they are rarely at home home because of the many clothes that lay around the room and all of the books and work that lay around the room. What I noticed though is that it seems like when they are in their room they are comfortable in their surrounding. It seems like they are a cozy person because all of the pillows in the room. The clothes and shoes in the closet shows that the person doesn't like to be seen much because of all the dark color clothes. The majority of the colors in the closet are brown and gray and black. There are only a few bright colored clothes. I also noticed that this person pays a lot of attention to small details. Even though the clothes in the closet may seem bland and dead, there is a gold jewlry box that contains a lot of jewlry in it. That tells me that the person knows how to use what they have to spark something up that may be dead. It also seems as if this person cherishes loved ones because of the pictures in the room. I also noticed that this person like to carry big purses which may mean that they like to carry their whole life with them.
Exercise 6: Seeing Yourself as Others See You (Version 2: Creating Your Cheering Section)
Joel Olsteen (uncle)
"I can see that Alexandria tries to be all that she can be. She tries her best to maintain a positive attitude and likes to see nothing more but other people being happy. She is warm and charming and when it comes to meeting new people, she is always open for gain new friends. She is loving and caring even when people have done some wrong in her life. She is very much forgiving."
Maya Angelou (grandmother)
"Alexandria is a person that can be very creative and expressive. She may not show it through words so often, but her actions speak loud enough. In the way she shows love to others is amazing. When encountering with other people she always puts on a beautiful smile. She carries herself well and is very charismatic. A lot of the younger ones in the family look up to her. "
Alicia Keys (sister)
"Alexandria is a strong person who really understands a lot that goes on around her. She is a person that is very goal oriented and if she could change the world she world do so in a heartbeat. She is a woman of good standing and cares a lot for everyone. She is smart, outgoing, and very fun to be around. "
Coretta Scott King (mother)
"Alexandria is a darling. She is spontaneous and is very intelligent. Alexandria is her own person and that is what makes her so very unique. She grows as a person everyday and tries her best to do what is right. Her beautiful spirit that glows on the inside ends up showing up on the outside and that is why she is such a beautiful person."
Exercise 7: Twenty Things You Like to Do
1.talking on the phone/20 min ago, no, w/someone, spontaneous
2.writing/yesterday, no, alone, planned, school and non-school related, mind body and spiritual
3. eating/ yesterday, yes cost money, w/someone, planned
4.watching movies/yesterday, no always, w/ someone, spontaneous, mind body and spiritual
5.going to the show/a month ago, yes cost money, w/ someone, planned, mind body spiritual
6.laughing/today, free, w/ someone, spontaneous, mind body and spiritual
7. going shopping/ last week, not free, planned, w/someone
8. driving/ last week, yes (gas), planned, alone, fast, mind body and spirit
9.walking along the lakefront/ in July, w/someone, free, planned, slow, mind body and spirit
10.traveling/ today, w/someone, not free, mind body and spirit
11.trying new food/ yesterday, sometimes free, w/someone, spontaneous, mind body and spirit.
12.taking pictures/yesterday, w/someone, spontaneous, free
13.going to church /last sunday, w/someone, planned, free, mind soul and spirit
14.track and field/ last thursday, free, planned, w/someone, mind body and spirit
15.sharing time with loved ones / today, free, spontaneous, mind bosy and spirit
16.coloring/ last week, free, spontaneous, mind bosy and spirit, alone
17.helping others/ last sunday, planned, w/someone, free, mind body and spirit
18.party/ two fridays ago, not free, planned, w/someone
19.singing/ today, mind body and spirit, free, alone
20.listen to music/ today, free, spontaneous, mind body and spirit, alone
Exercise 8: Your Ideal Environment
My ideal envrionment would be a place where everyone was happy with laughter and never complained. I would want a place where there wasn't anyone complaining because then there would be less arguments and less problems in the world. It seems to me that if everyone was to work together for the good of others then there really wouldn't be any problems in the world and then everyone would just be grateful for what they have and look at it as a blessing. I would like to live an in environment that was full of laughter because for me laughghter seems to bring my heart joy. That would be a wonderful place to live in because then everyone would have a smile on their face! If I was able to realy live this environment then I would probably spend all day watching funny moves with my family and friends.
Exercise 9: Your Ideal Day
I am awake at 10:45 in the morning and I am making breakfast. I am eating grits, eggs, and sausage. I call my mother and my grandmother to see how they are doing. I text my boyfriend to see how he is doing and to see if our date is still on for the night. I am taking a long hot shower with my favorite shower gel. I am putting on my favorite outfit and perfume. I am driving to class in my mercedes to futher my education and I have a clear understanding of everything. After classes I am going to meet up with my girlfriends so that we can go downtown and have lunch. It is a sunny day outside so me and my friends are going to go to the lakefront and then probably go for a swim. I am tired now and I am going home to go and take a shower so that when my boyfriend calls, I will be ready to go out to dinner. We are going to Shaws downtown for a nice dinner. He lets me order anything I want on the menu! He takes me back home where we go in and finish the night off with listening to old school music and laughing the night away.
Fantasy Analysis:Getting Down to the Basics
Q 1: A house, friends, mom and grandmother.
Q 2: A companion, and my mercedes
Q 3: Waking up as late as I do in the morning, having all the money I wanted to do everything
Q 4: I think that my life would be pretty much still joyful if I just had my house/condo and was able to hear from my mom and grandmother everyday.
Q 5: My friends and family is about the only things that I have of the elements that I listed. I have a place to live but it is on campus though.
Q 6: My condo is what is missing from my life, my mercedes, and my boyfriend. I am also missing money that I would use to do all of the fun things that I want to do in life.
Q 7: The obstacles that may be stopping me from having my ideal day tomorrow would probably be the economy as well as being in school. I don't have money, I am going to have to owe money when I am finished with school, an I would also have to find a job which would also be hard. In order for me to gain this ideal day I have to finish out this stage of my life right now and that is focusing on what it is that is going to give me everything that I am hoping for.
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Assignment #2 What Do You Love?
I interviewed my father to ask him what I was like and what I loved in my primary years of life. My father told me that the first 5 years of my life I was very smart. He said that I would learn thing easily and use to try to analyze things. An example he gave was when I was 2 years old, I would love to pick up the phone and dial numbers to act like I was calling people. He said that he purposely unplugged the cord and left the room and when I wanted to use the phone and discovered that there was no dial tone, I traced the cord so that I could plug it back in. My father also said that during the first five years of my life I was mannerable and well-behaved.
My father told me that when I was little I use to love to stay up late with him and watch movies. I found that funny because I still do the same thing today. He also remember me loving to jump rope outside. What my father thought was unique about me was that I was outgoing and I was just about a friend to everyone I came in contact with.
When I asked my father what he thought I woould grow up to be when I was little, he told me that he thought that I was going to be a lawyer. I found that shocking because I grew older him and my mother was always pushing for me to be a doctor. He said that he thought that only becuase I use to talk a lot when I was little. He said that when we use to go on road trips I was always the one who stayed up late with him and kept him talking while everyone else slept the whole way.
Part 2
When I asked my friends if they could list for me my strengths and weaknesses, it seemed like most of their reponses were similar which made me think a lot. I realized that may I should change some of my ways in order to work on my weaknesses. Some of the feedback that I got back for my weaknesses was that I let people walk over me sometimes, I can be naive sometimes, I don't say what I truly want to say sometimes, I have low self-confidence when I am struggling through life sometimes, and that I let my past hurts and pain interfere with my present sometime. To me all of these go hand in hand and I believe that I should work on these downfalls.
When I asked my friends if they list for me my strengths, they told me that I was strong-minded, kind, dedicated, compassionate, that I have a high tolerance for hardships and pain. I can understand where all of them are coming from, but it also makes me think sometimes if I am too nice since my strengths seems like they somewhat connect to my weaknesses.
Part 3
One activity that I listed during our class activity was about jump roping. I use to enjoy doing that as a little girl in elementary school. The last time I jumped rope was for the first time in a long time sice grade school was my junior year in high school. I almost forgot about the assignment that we were suppose to do something that we haven't done from when we younger this week, and I actually ended up jumping rope with some little kids and my friend Kristen this weekend at a barbeque. I found it funny because I looked like a big kid jumping rope, but I still enjoyed myself all in the same.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Assignment 1
My attractions and fascinations as a child were mainly things that reminded me of movies. As a child I always loved to watch movies. I would sit at home in front of the televison and would recite all my favorite movies, which were Christmas time movies and Disney movies. I guess that is why I love things like snow, nature, fairytales, and love stories. These are thing that makes me dream.
When I was younger, the sense of touch is what I mainly lived through, but really I enjoed them all too. The sense touch came to mind first because I was always up under someone when I was little. It was either my parents or my grandmother. Their touch just showes me affection, care, and love. For the sense of seeing, I enjoy this because I can see all the beautiful things and the people around me. The sense of sound is also appreciated as well. Although I can't sing, I always had my father and my grandfather singing to me as a child, which is why I believe I show a strong liking to music.
I really can't remember what I use to dream about when I was little, but I do remember that I use to love playing with baby dolls as a little girl and taking care of them. I also remember taking drives in the car with my family sometimes. I would be in the car dazing out of the window always wondering how come the moon use to follow us everywhere. It was a pretty funny question then, but I was always curious about the things that went on around me. But other than that, I think that traveling and watching good movies were the things that I loved to do when I was younger.
One dream that I had when I was younger was to become an actress. Only a select few know about this, but not many. My parents always enforced another career over my life though and I just happened to fall in that direction that they wanted me to fall in. I'm not upset by not pursing that dream only because it was just an idea. A fantasy that I had when I was younger was just plain and simple; to be rich. I wanted a big mansion so that it could fit all of my family memebers and friends. Everyone was going to have their own floor of the building and I also wanted an amusement park the back of my house. Apart of me still love these things, but I know that in reality it probably will not happen. I guess you could say that it was just childhood dreaming.
I believe that some of those interests that I had as a child could point to actually fulfulling those dreams by going out to pursue them.
